You SAY you love her, but do you really? Are you willing to sacrifice your feelings, your enjoyment, your pleasure, and your happiness in order to honor her? Are you willing to forgo your own desires and interests to protect hers? Are you willing to protect her - body, mind and soul - from outside forces, yes, but also from your own lust before you marry her? Are you willing to say "NO" to yourself in preparation for her? You say you want her, but do you only want to use her to feel good? You say you respect her, but will you still respect her when she isn't doing, saying, thinking, and feeling what you think makes sense? You say you love her, but do you really?